Right, I tried all sorts of things to sort it out! I found out that the server busy thing was coming from a program that my digital camera uses, it was looking for pictures as soon as the computer started up even when the camera wasnt plugged in, so i disabled the "autorun" feature and it seemed to cure that.
Then i deleted the drive for the network card/connection thingy and restarted the computer so that it picked it up and installed the hardware again and the internet connection works again! Dont know what was going on there!
Touching earth lightly.