Just found out (thanks to my cousin in another state) that I am owed 8.93 cents from some newspaper company. News to me.

However, while looking that up, on our local state controllers website of 'unclaimed' property, I found my EX hubby is owed over a thousand bucks from a bank account he started when he left me (before the divorce was final).

We have been divorced since 2001 but I sent him a bunch of stuff over a year ago (important stuff) and he never even said thanks or changed his address on that matter so I still get mail for him and his new wife HERE. Now I just toss it.

But, this is a goodly amount of money. My thought is screw the ex and let the State of California put that money to good use somewhere else.

I can't claim it, only the named person can with all the account info to prove it's his, but here's the question:

Would YOU tell the ex that he has money due?

One can never have too many good karma points.

Probably the right thing to do in spite of how hard it would be. It will come back to you someday in some unexpected form or another.

Maybe he would offer me 1/2 the money? Ha.

I never thought of Karma, Ana and Lotus. Maybe you are right. I just got so mad when I tried to 'do the right thing' over all that insurance stuff of his (cost me plenty of time calling the people and getting all the info so he could change it and then mega postage on all the stuff) and never heard a word back. Got me not wanting to be 'nice' anymore.

Thinking thinking.

you could message him that you have some good news for him to the tune of $1000 but you will have to charge him an up front fee of £500 for the info

and if he agrees get it writing

Awwww yes, Sorta, I would tell him. Since you know it now, thanks to your cousin, you can't pretend to not know. Like Lotus said: it will come back to you in some way if you don't. It's no good for the soul to be so angry at other people Sorta. Take care of your soul. And the Karma, well, we all need lots, aren't we

Happy Sunday

Evelyne

I like Niki's idea! I'd probably get raided by the computer police for extortion though.

Since that bank account was there while you were married,I believe you have dower rights which is 1/2.

Geo might be right. Even if your name was not on the account, it might still be considered marital property.

But, it sounds like it might be more trouble than it's worth to get the ex to do the right thing.

Although I personally like Niki's suggestion, one can never have too much good karma!

Yep, I considered all the good advice and wrote an email to my ex stepdaughter (who has kept in touch with me) and asked her to forward the info on the money my ex could claim along with the proper web links. I might hear something back from her. I guess being 'good' is the better way. I think my conscience would bother me if I didn't let 'him' know.

As for community property, and possibly getting some of the cash, it's too much of a headache to deal with it all. I'd rather he gets the windfall and maybe remembers WHO was nice enough to let him know it was there.

Waiting to see if I hear back from anyone and going to fill out the forms to claim MY measly 8.93.

What would I do? That's a tough one. I wouldn't feel any obligation and I wouldn't do it for Karma. For me it would come down to whether or not I think he deserves this windfall.

Sometimes I do good things just to make me feel good about doing them. If I thought he deserved it then I would feel good being the one to help him get it.

Good for you Sorta because you have a good conscience about this. Maybe a punkie will stick'em up and take it from him. My ex was squirlling money away during the marriage and I found out because the bank by error sent the statement to home instead of his work. And of course I opened it.

You have better things to do than messing with this small stuff. And small people

Interesting situation, Sorta.

I faced a similar 'conscious' vs to heck with it dilemma at voting time earlier this month. I separated from husband this past May and went to an extended stay hotel. Non-contested divorce so, according to my atty, expected to be done by Sept at the latest. Long story short, his atty has dragged things out and when Sept turned to Oct and the agreement had not yet been filed, I couldn't afford the hotel and moved to a sharing condo situation with an acquaintance who, due to circumstance out of her control is short on $. So I moved in and pay half of what I was paying at hotel per month giving more living space and her the ability to keep the condo. When I informed by spouse about changing addresses, he felt it important to remind me that, since I've not lived at the address on my voting card for over 4 months, they might not let me vote, plus I should have done that anyway after the first month. Said something about minding his own business, hung up and decided not to worry about it as I had more important things on my mind to do.

The Friday before the actual election day, on the spur of the moment, I stopped to early vote. When I was handed a paper to fill out with my address, I decided to come clean. Seems I'm one of those people who always 'do the right thing' and the few times I decide to not be good, I get caught or randomly questioned. So I mentioned my dilemma to a voting official who consulted another one and was given the go ahead to use my old address to vote.

Yes, Sorta, I would tell him and remind him since that account was technically marital property, he owes you half. If it doesn't work/happen, get him subpoenaed to small claims court and see if you can get on either Judge Judy or Judge Marilyn or whomever's show. They'll verbally and legally rip him to pieces.

Love the idea of being on TV judge show. I wonder if I could do that. Did send an email to the ex stepdaughter but haven't heard anything back yet. I did 'my' part. Will probably never hear anything. He's moved on, doesn't want to deal with things (he never did). At least my conscience is clear. Whew.

I had one of the ugliest 4-year 40 thousand dollar divorces/custody battles and left my expensive house and possessions and never got child support for 12 years and you know what? I called my ex this morning to wish him a happy Thanksgiving as I usually do. Life is too short to hold a grudge and be angry and vindictive. Be the bigger person, it may be hard, but it's easier to look in the mirror every day for the rest of your life.