Posted By: Sorta Blonde
Putting on my Big Girl Pants - 09/24/12 10:45 PM
When am I going to learn to not be so nice?
Tenant's son who moved away a year ago to be with his 'girlfriend' has been back here 38 days now after a fight with her over him not finding a job in almost a year. He had lived here with his parents for 25 years as my neighbor (15 of those as my tenant after I bought the property).
So when he moved out at the end of last October, to be nice and help him qualify for a rental in his new city, I signed a paper taking him off the rental agreement and left his parents on it. I figured he might return some day (never know about those girlfriends) so I never changed the original rental agreement to drop him permanently. I thought it would make it easier if he returned and his Mom said he might be back in 6 months when his girlfriend could transfer her job down here. I believed them all.
So after the 38 days now, and him saying he wasn't really looking for a job, didn't know how long he was staying, etc., I thought it would be time to add him back on the rental agreement (a simple signature rescinding the original amendment).
As I should have known, he balked at signing the paper to rescind. Started saying how he had just talked to girlfriend and 'might' be going back soon. I stood firm and advised him about my 'Landlord Insurance' and how it doesn't cover him as a 'guest' as well as it does as a Tenant and it would be to his and my advantage to sign.
Now I wait. I've got that icky feeling that he will refuse to be back on the rental agreement and/or I will have a pack of family up here soon yelling at me the way they did when I dared mention that the 'other son' was staying well over a visitor's agreement. He had been here 2 months before I said anything. My agreement states only 1 week before I take action and I've never complained except that one time about long long visits from relatives.
I get the feeling they think a 'relative' is not a 'visitor'. Poor me. I've been overly nice and now I'm not sure this can be easily fixed. To date this year there has been a visitor there 98 days! Sometimes it's only one, but usually it's 2-5 extra people staying up to 2 weeks each time and sometimes a month.
Best case scenario, he signs the paper, brings it up and all is well. Worst case, he refuses and then I have to put on my 'Landlord's Hat' and lay down the law as stated in the agreement they all signed. This will force me to make him leave or pay a daily fee for staying over 1 week. I think 38 days is a bit more than one week.
I don't want an all out yelling match. I'm ready for the 'attack' if it comes, unlike last time when I was totally caught off guard for the angry tirades from 2 of the men of the family.
So wish me luck. I've started the first round and I'm crossing my fingers for a signature and praying it all goes smoothly.
Tenant's son who moved away a year ago to be with his 'girlfriend' has been back here 38 days now after a fight with her over him not finding a job in almost a year. He had lived here with his parents for 25 years as my neighbor (15 of those as my tenant after I bought the property).
So when he moved out at the end of last October, to be nice and help him qualify for a rental in his new city, I signed a paper taking him off the rental agreement and left his parents on it. I figured he might return some day (never know about those girlfriends) so I never changed the original rental agreement to drop him permanently. I thought it would make it easier if he returned and his Mom said he might be back in 6 months when his girlfriend could transfer her job down here. I believed them all.
So after the 38 days now, and him saying he wasn't really looking for a job, didn't know how long he was staying, etc., I thought it would be time to add him back on the rental agreement (a simple signature rescinding the original amendment).
As I should have known, he balked at signing the paper to rescind. Started saying how he had just talked to girlfriend and 'might' be going back soon. I stood firm and advised him about my 'Landlord Insurance' and how it doesn't cover him as a 'guest' as well as it does as a Tenant and it would be to his and my advantage to sign.
Now I wait. I've got that icky feeling that he will refuse to be back on the rental agreement and/or I will have a pack of family up here soon yelling at me the way they did when I dared mention that the 'other son' was staying well over a visitor's agreement. He had been here 2 months before I said anything. My agreement states only 1 week before I take action and I've never complained except that one time about long long visits from relatives.
I get the feeling they think a 'relative' is not a 'visitor'. Poor me. I've been overly nice and now I'm not sure this can be easily fixed. To date this year there has been a visitor there 98 days! Sometimes it's only one, but usually it's 2-5 extra people staying up to 2 weeks each time and sometimes a month.
Best case scenario, he signs the paper, brings it up and all is well. Worst case, he refuses and then I have to put on my 'Landlord's Hat' and lay down the law as stated in the agreement they all signed. This will force me to make him leave or pay a daily fee for staying over 1 week. I think 38 days is a bit more than one week.
I don't want an all out yelling match. I'm ready for the 'attack' if it comes, unlike last time when I was totally caught off guard for the angry tirades from 2 of the men of the family.
So wish me luck. I've started the first round and I'm crossing my fingers for a signature and praying it all goes smoothly.