The Other Woman.....

Posted by: Leeana

The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 07:40 AM

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally
. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”
Posted by: connie

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 07:58 AM

Thanks Leeana, that is beautiful and so very true. smile
Posted by: Leeana

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 09:09 AM

sometimes its nice to know our children and in - laws are kind and still there for us Thank You Connie For the response your too kind smile ty
Posted by: looney4labs

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 10:24 AM

That is a beautiful story, and the moral is so true.

When the dinosaurs still roamed the earth and long distance phone calls were expensive and rare, I always wrote my folks at least once a week and called them once a week for a quick "I love you."

When I got the call that my mom had unexpectedly passed away, my first thought was "Thank God I just spoke with her this morning." wave
Posted by: BrownEyedTigre

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 10:30 AM

I'm a big I love you person to my family. Not a day goes by that my son, daughter and hubby and I have not exchanged those words. I also believe the words "I appreciate You" are not used enough and I let people know that as well.
Posted by: Sorta Blonde

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 12:04 PM

A wonderful reminder that life is short. I called my Mom once a day no matter what just to chat and she only lived 2 miles from me. I'm so glad I did.
Posted by: Leeana

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 03:51 PM

L4L - Thank You for your kinds words also and what you said is so very true, I loved my Mom so very much I miss her up until today.... I lost my Dad at 15 from a Heart attack at home so she became my Mom became Mom/Dad in a heartbeat, I miss her.

BrownEyedTigre Ive learned to be a big I love you person after my mom passed ... I have my one and only sister whom I ador she calls me everyday and says that ... And if she forgets I would say it.

Sorta Blonde wish I knew what you all here know then ... I yes would have told her everyday I love You Mom ...... But Dead or alive....Id like to think she knows.... ty
Posted by: Sorta Blonde

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/20/13 04:29 PM

Not to worry, Leanna, Moms always know their kids love them even if they don't always tell them and vise versa. Special bond there that is hard to break. My Mom drove me nuts with all her silly ways that everyone but me saw the humor in. Now I miss those moments. I'm sure she is up there somewhere watching me do the SAME silly things she used to do and laughing all the while. Your Mom probably is right next to her, and they are talking about US. Oh yes, I know they are. happydance
Posted by: Kaki's Sister

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/21/13 05:12 AM

A lovely story Leeana. My Mom died 5 years ago and I still miss her. She lived just a few minutes away. We talked every day and sometimes even now when the phone rings I think it might be my Mom.
Posted by: Mad

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/21/13 05:51 AM

Thanks for that, Leeana smile
Posted by: Leeana

Re: The Other Woman..... - 03/21/13 08:57 AM

Sorta Blonde smile

Kaki's Sister I sometimes feel that too, I know exactly where your coming from smile ty

Mad Your very welcomed smile I feel better sharing this ... I was getting down ...and thank you Boomies you all pick me up when I need it smile wave