The order doesn't matter.

Wow -went back and some of those items I never had a chanch to get but the bloody shaw..now what ?

You should be able to get them.

how far do I need to go back ?

This is the list:
Maria's bloody shawl, ashes from a tomb beside a wild rose bush, also at the cemetery in Martha's mauseleum a ring, rose from the rose bush on the side of the road going to the castle, the forked slingshot from Ionel and berries found in front of the castle.

So visit the cemetery and look for those that can be found there: ashes, ring.
Walk the road to the castle and get the rose; then pick the berries.
Talk to Ionel and see if you can get the slingshot.

thanks a million,i can't get in to Martha's mauseloum its closed..also can't get ashes ..now ionel want to trade for the slingshot, what do I have to trade ??he doesn't know..help!!

Ok went back and got in to Martha's mausoleum and got the ring and the cross.but can't get the rose.or the ashes.and I can't get the slingshot.any other thoughts..??

Rose: Use the knife to cut roses from the rose bush beside the grave of Luciana Hartner or from the bush on the left side of the road going to the castle.

Ashes: go to the tomb at the end beside a wild rose bush.
Use the shovel on the lid of the tomb. Take ashes from the body with a stake driven on the chest.

Slingshot:Go to Ionel again at the end of the road from the cemetery.
Give him the gramophone and in exchange, you can look in his treasure bag.
Take the forked stick-slingshot-hazel wand.

Thank you so much for that info..

Thanks ,I got everything but one thing ,I don't have the shovel ! how do I get a shovel ?? just got the slingshot from Ionel,now where do I go to get a shovel ?

From MaG's walkthrough:

Thank you so much for the info,now I have everything !now what do I have to do to get Luana to show me the way...still stuck.what do I do now ??

If you are at the point where Luana is saying to know your enemies first, here are some things to consider:

thanks ,I have recheck everything and the only thing is -to get to know my enemies and my friends.. any more thoughts on this ?

A lot of gamers have been stumped here. Usually, they miss clicking all active items and reading them in Janos' room and your room. Some have missed things in the Clinic.
Usually it is a leaflet that is tucked in the file in the drawer in Janos' room.
Be sure to also read everything you collected in documents.
Go back and click everything there.

----- Knowing your enemies means - learn through reading that they are your enemies and know what they have done.