I'm stuck at The Gate

I've read the walkthru and it says when you get to the gate go to the 2nd floor go to your old room and go to sleep....Problem is....I searched the house and did everything else first so now when I get to the room it states:This is a safe place to rest but I can't get into the room,it really shouldn't make any difference what i do 1st before getting to that room right???
If anyone could help or have a saved game from the point when you 1st get into the gate would be great.
I have downloaded the patch etc and restarted the started the game but no luck.TY